Healing and Healing

It is sometimes mind boggling what you learn when you are down.  Down doesn't have to be depression, or out of money, or lost of a loved one...it can just be down.

Recently I had major surgery.  I was told that healing could take as short as 10 days to 4 weeks.  I think my mind stuck on the ten day scenario simply because I am not one to just sit still.

I am only one week into healing physically and I had a bit of an emotional butt kicking.  Yes...I am very hard on myself but that's the way it is.

I just couldn't understand why I was feeling so tired, why I wanted to cry, why I could wake up feeling absolutely amazing and a few short hours later if felt like I needed to just collapse and sleep.  I began calling myself a wuss.  Apologizing to anyone around me for my inadequacies.  You know, things like why I am so slow at the grocery check out.  Why I feel the need to lay down again and not spend time.  I am sorry for this and sorry for that...etc.

Then, I did a search on post surgery stuff and found that its not just me out there feeling like I'd been crushed by a car.

After reading all that I read I realized that actually I am not sorry.   It's an old label I gave myself many years ago....  it kind of goes along with that "not good enough" label that attached itself to my backside at a very young age only to be found and ripped off after looking in a mirror for a long time.

I remembered that I had written a book about these kinds of labels and asked myself...what would I tell someone else who confided in my about these feelings.

I would tell them...girlfriend...you just had major surgery!!  No one expects you to be wonder woman right now...except for you...so give yourself a break already!!!

So, that's what I will do...I am going to give myself a break.  I am going to give myself time to heal and realize that's all I need to do right now.

If you find yourself in a situation where you are questioning yourself..... have you given yourself time to heal??
I'd love for you to have a look at the book I wrote and how I was able to leave the labels behind and begin my journey of healing.  It's also the technique I have used on some of my coaching clients (women from abuse).

Here is a link to the amazon listing of the book:

The 7 Minute Mirror, Reflection, Revision, Results

Let me know what you think and if you need some healing and healing.  :)

The Road to Recovery

So I am on the road to recovery and really excited !! As I said before the surgery I am excited about things to come and I am still very excited. 

I am more than ever seeing every opportunity that is presented... as I learn more about rainmakers and see how much of me is rainmaker material all I can do is keep going forward!!

So, my wish to all of you is that you see what is naturally you, embrace it, harness it and then take the ride of your life and do whatever it is that makes you happy!!

So, my wish to all of you is that you see what is naturally you, embrace it, harness it and then take the ride of your life and do whatever it is that makes you happy!!


I now realize what people mean when they say the possibilities are endless, because they really are!!

It's What YOU make of it!

So, I am a lover of anything that helps you move to the next level.  I follow and read many of the greats like Tony Robbins, Og Mandino, Matt Oechsli and oh does my list go on.

Well I am so excited because my fiance, who is fully in tune to me, bought me tickets to the next Tony event!  I am over the moon about it.

Now for some of  you, your probably rolling your eyes and saying things like "oh that motivational stuff". And I am sure that at some point in your life you've come across someone that is really outgoing and goes to these sorts of events all the time.  They go, they get their fill, they come back all pumped up and then bam..they crash back into what they were before they went.  This causes you to again..roll your eyes.

Well, as the title of this post suggests, its all what YOU make of it.

That person that comes back and crashes hasn't learned to utilize what he or she learned.  You can say, "well they didn't learn anything", but I would say again...its all what you make of it.

Everything I come across and touch in life I learn from.  Some of it makes sense so I keep it on board.  Other parts are kind of wishy washy so I put it in the back of my head to revisit another time.  Other things just make no sense at all so I forget about it.  But, I make the most out of each occasion I can.

So, the next time you are given an opportunity to learn...how about trying to use the opportunity ...make something out of it.   Decide if its right for you or not.  But learn from it.

Its the same sort of thing I always told my boys as I was raising them...  if they were miserable I told them..its a choice..  you make it what it is...if you want to be miserable, be miserable...but if you want to be happy...do something about it.  Its all about what YOU make of it!!