Healing and Healing

It is sometimes mind boggling what you learn when you are down.  Down doesn't have to be depression, or out of money, or lost of a loved one...it can just be down.

Recently I had major surgery.  I was told that healing could take as short as 10 days to 4 weeks.  I think my mind stuck on the ten day scenario simply because I am not one to just sit still.

I am only one week into healing physically and I had a bit of an emotional butt kicking.  Yes...I am very hard on myself but that's the way it is.

I just couldn't understand why I was feeling so tired, why I wanted to cry, why I could wake up feeling absolutely amazing and a few short hours later if felt like I needed to just collapse and sleep.  I began calling myself a wuss.  Apologizing to anyone around me for my inadequacies.  You know, things like why I am so slow at the grocery check out.  Why I feel the need to lay down again and not spend time.  I am sorry for this and sorry for that...etc.

Then, I did a search on post surgery stuff and found that its not just me out there feeling like I'd been crushed by a car.

After reading all that I read I realized that actually I am not sorry.   It's an old label I gave myself many years ago....  it kind of goes along with that "not good enough" label that attached itself to my backside at a very young age only to be found and ripped off after looking in a mirror for a long time.

I remembered that I had written a book about these kinds of labels and asked myself...what would I tell someone else who confided in my about these feelings.

I would tell them...girlfriend...you just had major surgery!!  No one expects you to be wonder woman right now...except for you...so give yourself a break already!!!

So, that's what I will do...I am going to give myself a break.  I am going to give myself time to heal and realize that's all I need to do right now.

If you find yourself in a situation where you are questioning yourself..... have you given yourself time to heal??
I'd love for you to have a look at the book I wrote and how I was able to leave the labels behind and begin my journey of healing.  It's also the technique I have used on some of my coaching clients (women from abuse).

Here is a link to the amazon listing of the book:

The 7 Minute Mirror, Reflection, Revision, Results

Let me know what you think and if you need some healing and healing.  :)