Healing and Healing

It is sometimes mind boggling what you learn when you are down.  Down doesn't have to be depression, or out of money, or lost of a loved one...it can just be down.

Recently I had major surgery.  I was told that healing could take as short as 10 days to 4 weeks.  I think my mind stuck on the ten day scenario simply because I am not one to just sit still.

I am only one week into healing physically and I had a bit of an emotional butt kicking.  Yes...I am very hard on myself but that's the way it is.

I just couldn't understand why I was feeling so tired, why I wanted to cry, why I could wake up feeling absolutely amazing and a few short hours later if felt like I needed to just collapse and sleep.  I began calling myself a wuss.  Apologizing to anyone around me for my inadequacies.  You know, things like why I am so slow at the grocery check out.  Why I feel the need to lay down again and not spend time.  I am sorry for this and sorry for that...etc.

Then, I did a search on post surgery stuff and found that its not just me out there feeling like I'd been crushed by a car.

After reading all that I read I realized that actually I am not sorry.   It's an old label I gave myself many years ago....  it kind of goes along with that "not good enough" label that attached itself to my backside at a very young age only to be found and ripped off after looking in a mirror for a long time.

I remembered that I had written a book about these kinds of labels and asked myself...what would I tell someone else who confided in my about these feelings.

I would tell them...girlfriend...you just had major surgery!!  No one expects you to be wonder woman right now...except for you...so give yourself a break already!!!

So, that's what I will do...I am going to give myself a break.  I am going to give myself time to heal and realize that's all I need to do right now.

If you find yourself in a situation where you are questioning yourself..... have you given yourself time to heal??
I'd love for you to have a look at the book I wrote and how I was able to leave the labels behind and begin my journey of healing.  It's also the technique I have used on some of my coaching clients (women from abuse).

Here is a link to the amazon listing of the book:

The 7 Minute Mirror, Reflection, Revision, Results

Let me know what you think and if you need some healing and healing.  :)

The Road to Recovery

So I am on the road to recovery and really excited !! As I said before the surgery I am excited about things to come and I am still very excited. 

I am more than ever seeing every opportunity that is presented... as I learn more about rainmakers and see how much of me is rainmaker material all I can do is keep going forward!!

So, my wish to all of you is that you see what is naturally you, embrace it, harness it and then take the ride of your life and do whatever it is that makes you happy!!

So, my wish to all of you is that you see what is naturally you, embrace it, harness it and then take the ride of your life and do whatever it is that makes you happy!!


I now realize what people mean when they say the possibilities are endless, because they really are!!

It's What YOU make of it!

So, I am a lover of anything that helps you move to the next level.  I follow and read many of the greats like Tony Robbins, Og Mandino, Matt Oechsli and oh does my list go on.

Well I am so excited because my fiance, who is fully in tune to me, bought me tickets to the next Tony event!  I am over the moon about it.

Now for some of  you, your probably rolling your eyes and saying things like "oh that motivational stuff". And I am sure that at some point in your life you've come across someone that is really outgoing and goes to these sorts of events all the time.  They go, they get their fill, they come back all pumped up and then bam..they crash back into what they were before they went.  This causes you to again..roll your eyes.

Well, as the title of this post suggests, its all what YOU make of it.

That person that comes back and crashes hasn't learned to utilize what he or she learned.  You can say, "well they didn't learn anything", but I would say again...its all what you make of it.

Everything I come across and touch in life I learn from.  Some of it makes sense so I keep it on board.  Other parts are kind of wishy washy so I put it in the back of my head to revisit another time.  Other things just make no sense at all so I forget about it.  But, I make the most out of each occasion I can.

So, the next time you are given an opportunity to learn...how about trying to use the opportunity ...make something out of it.   Decide if its right for you or not.  But learn from it.

Its the same sort of thing I always told my boys as I was raising them...  if they were miserable I told them..its a choice..  you make it what it is...if you want to be miserable, be miserable...but if you want to be happy...do something about it.  Its all about what YOU make of it!!

Being a Rainmaker

The meeting I had with that amazing woman set me in to motion.  As I said before I was called a Rainmaker.
This caused me to want to thoroughly investigate what was needed to really brush up on my skill set and to find what else I needed to develop to really move forward as a Rainmaker.

In my research as to exactly how to develop skills as a rainmaker I came across this definition.  It's from Kim Greenhouses website called "The rainmaking company".

I think this matches me...to a T!!

What Is A Rainmaker?
A Rainmaker…

Can be anyone, anywhere at any time
Makes and delivers commitments
Loves surprise, adventure, and challenge
Works with and without form
Is an instrument of timing
Is an agent of delivery and manifestation
Serves to uplift and nurture the human spirit
Is receptive and flexible
Is creative and adaptable
Is honorable and humble
Is deliberate and moves quickly
Is about movement, integration, and joy
Is internally directed and energy-efficient
Possesses vibrational acuity and spatial acumen
Is called or invited to a task, situation, or gathering

Can cook, weave, and dance just about anything into this world. Once aligned with your purpose, look out!

A Rainmaking team is like a great orchestra playing a symphony. Rainmaking teams are highly creative, very mischievous, wise, and virtually unstoppable once they kick into high gear. Since they are about making and delivering commitments in time and space, when they say yes to delivering something, watch out! It is merely a matter of time, place, style, and the number of people they will call upon to make sure that their commitments are fulfilled.

TGIF

I am excited its Friday!!

Aren't we all?  Ha!  Well today I finally am feeling amazing and back to my old self.  And, tonight I have a call with a coach and am over the moon!!

Do you remember when I wrote about making connections and how important they are to your life whether it be personal, business or pleasure....well during that women's network meeting I met a fantastic coach.  We chatted and seemed to click right away.  The one thing that she said to me that really made me want to get this show on the road is that I have a natural talent .....which of course I knew I had but didnt now what to do with it!!!

I am a great connector.  I have made connections for so many people that have brought either more profit, more support, more connections, more ideas....just more more more.....

So, tonight's call will be a call to action.

And, remember what I have been saying for a long time now ( if you have ever followed me ) ....

Success is not a measurement...it's a MOVEMENT.....

So I am moving again!!!

I really hope you will join me in success (movement).  It's an awesome place to be!!

So...before I am off to start my day...I have one big question for you...

WHAT ARE YOU DOING TO GET YOUR MOVEMENT ON??????

Comments are always welcome!!!

Get up and MOVE!!

Pain Endurance - Womanhood

Yes, I am a woman.

There are so many different kinds of pain women endure throughout the life time.

Obvious pains are those of heart ache, whether it be from their growing children or a spouse.  Other pains similar to this type of pain (emotional pain) would be memories from the past, feelings of not being good enough etc.

We then go through another kind of pain.  For some it is not as severe as it is for others, but it ends up amplifying all the other pains....  This is a physical pain...  called womanhood....  aka menstration.

Now I grew up without the physical pain but did bear the brunt of the emotional pain that came with the dreaded monthly montage of crying uncontrollably for no reason at all, eating things that I regretted 5 days later, swelling and feeling as big as a house.  Yes...I had the emotional part of this lovely part of womanhood. ( would could call the "emotional part" temporary psychosis...because that is what it feels like!!)

Now, as time goes on we learn to live with our emotional pain (and other learn to live with it as well).  But now, I am enduring another pain...quite physical and rather debilitating.

Like many other women I opted to have an endometrial ablation to correct my anemia. Many friends and coworkers have had this done and swore that it was the best thing they could have ever done.  All parts are intact, no more bleeding...life is good.  So...  why not...its better than getting iron shots and feeling like crap all the time...or so I thought.

I am not complaining about my Doctor.  She is amazing and I would go to her over and over.  But, the pain post ablation for a year is about to do me in.  I looked on many websites to read about this issue and have found that many women have experienced the same thing.  It feels like having 5 days of non stop labor.  Sure, they give you meds that take the edge off, but if you know me, I hate putting anything in this body of mine.  Now, not only am I putting meds in but also am completely drained.  UGGH

Next step is surgical consult.  Which again...I really dont want to part with any body parts, but must.

Thought...when they do the deed can they get rid of the emotional pain as well...

I am sure that many family members to those of us that have premenstrual breakdowns would be so very pleased!!

So, a little advice for those of you that are thinking about getting an ablation...it could be the best thing you have ever done for yourself or it can be the worst.  There are those that it worked miracles for and those that it just caused more pain.  Do your homework and really have long discussions with your Doc about the procedure and do your due diligence and do some reading.

My Doctor was very informative.  She really did her job, I just happened to be one of the many that probably should have gone straight for surgery.

We women...what we go through only makes us stronger....  lets get this show on the road!!!

Comments are always welcomed... so are questions...etc



  

 

Making Connections

Well, tonight was a success.

I have always said that Success is not a measurement, it is a movement.

So, tonight I moved.  In otherwords, instead of just going to the business forums and watching everyone, nodding my head and smiling, I connected.

The funny thing about it is that I have been connecting with people for a very long time and just never really put it together in my head that in life, no matter what station you are in, connecting is important.

I walked around the room tonight, introducing myself, asking about them, listening to their stories and figuring out who I could connect them with and how they can make movement in their business.

Yes.. I was born to be a connector.

I am at a stage in my life where I realized, that I have only just begun.  People are stunned at how much I have already done, but goodness gracious.  I am only 46, kids are off in college and I have this enormous opportunity sitting right in front of me waving its hands and making a ruckus so that I would just realize that its there.  

Everyone I met tonight or reconnected with from the past has something so nice to say and how they can't wait to see what I do with the rest of my life.

That feels good.

So, success....its a loaded word, a word that to many people throw around making up meanings that are not reachable.  Success is as I said a movement, not a measurement.

And, if yo really want to be successful...move in the direction of making connections.  You never know who God will put in your circle of influence.  By connecting you open up your world... to big, bright, wonderful opportunities.